BIFL Gift Genie: The Ultimate Master Wishlist Builder

User asks for ideas to populate a master Christmas/Birthday wishlist spreadsheet with a focus on Buy It For Life (BIFL) items but is open to non-BIFL suggestions. They provide context: 35 years old, moderate eastern USA climate, spouse, two kids, homeowner who plans to stay put, hybrid work, and drives a Tacoma, and request top must-add items assuming they own none of the suggested durable goods.